II.A.11. Stahovanie do Dallasu posunute???

duce zivoty – pokial sa to skoro nezmeni… V tom telefone, snziac s ami vysmiat, na mna desat minut hovorila nervozna zena, plna hnevu, nenavisiti, nevyrovnanosti… Ziadne racio v tom, co hovorila, so m nepostrehol, len snahu o konfrontaciu, boj, znicenie… Bolo mi jej luto. Pochopil som, ze cesta cez jej ludskost jednoducho neexistuje k detom, ze s tuym, comu veri, by som stale deti nikdy nevidel, nepocul… Nakoniec polozila. Bez toho, aby som mal moznost sa je aspon pozdravit. Nina ma znovu obvinila napriklad, ze som tie je obrazky, co mi malovala – zfalsoval –ze ich ona nikdy nenamalovala. Ani ze ma volala “Oco”, ani ze sme niekedy neico robili spolu dobre ci pekne, proste som u nej take iste zviera, ako ma vykresluje Hanka… Ich srdcia tepu rovnako dnes, Maminky I mojej dcery, I Adama. U Adama sa to lisi len aspon trochu racionalnostou, aj ked sa ju snazi potlacovat… na deti s anehnevasm, su dnes obetou – a bohuzial stale hrackou hanky v jej rukach, manipuluje ich, a aj ked im tisikrat nepovie nic zle proti mne – to, co z nej cita, co z nej vyzaruje, je jasnym signalom I pre nich, aby vedei, ako s amaju spravat ku mne, aby sa to maminke pacilo… Nina tym trpi viac, podla mna, je uz viac z toho psychicky mimo, ale jej “ja” nai podla mna, ale o tom nabuduce, pripomente mi slovo “Margie”, keby som sa k tomu nedostal. Nina “stvorila” dievcatko, kmaaaratku, vola ju “Margie”. Adam, ten to drzi viac v sebe, je viac uzavrety. Ako velmi sa trapi, to nie je vidiet na nom. Ale jeho chovanie je viac rezervovane. je to jeho povahou, je viac po Hanke, a ta viac po svojom otcovi, ktori s aprejavoval viac nepriamo, ako priamo, vo svojich slovah a cinoch. Nina je viac otvorena, v dobvorm I zlom teraz, viac po mne, nepovie len to, co nevie… “Strara mlada”, “dospele dieta”, dospelak, co mal byt este dlho dietatom, vzali sme je detstvo, vrhli ju do niecoho, comu nerozumie – no musi v tom zit, byt, dychat, placat sa – dokial ju z toho zase nevytiahneme von… Kto iny by to mal urobit, ak nie je rodicia? Preco to uz konecne neurobia? Cvo im v tom brani? Kto? Nie su to oni samy nakoniec? To bolo v kocke, skor moje pocity, ako fakta, tie nabuduce, dnes na to nemam viac sil… Vsetkym ludom dobrej vole – I tym ostatnym. Juraj ABQ 2. augusta 2003 PS: Dnes som mal vidiet deti zase. Stretnutie z rusene. Preco, a co sa deje, Vam poviem nabuduce, uz to nestiham ani pisat… Verim cez t ovsetko, ze pribeh mojich deti, sa obracia pomaly dobrym smerom, aj ked prakticky to nie je vidiet, ale ze sa tam skoro dostane, skoro, znamena aspon rok. Nevzdavam to. PPS: Warshak prirovnava pocity zavrhnuteho rodica v poslednej kapitole svojej knizky k pocitom rodica, ktoremu zomrelo dieta. Hovori, ze su este zlozitejsie. Neviem, dieta mi fyzicky nezomrelo. Ale to, co prezivam ako zavrhnuty rodic, ked mi deti pred ocami “dusevne zomieraju” – aspon pre mna, ich otca - neprajem ani svojmu najvacsiemu nepriatelovi. Nie je nim ani Hanka. Je mi jej luto, a modlim sa za nu rovnako, ako za deti, aby s akonecne postavila na stranu nasich deti, ktori potrebuju otca a matku, ako clovek lavu a pravu nohu… A NASEDUJE TEN PRIBEH, CO SOM VAM SLUBIL. TI, CO SU NA SLOVENKU, BUDU O NOM VEDIET Z TELEVIZIE ASI BVIAC... ---------- Original Message ---------------------------------- From: XXXXX@aol.com Date: Tue, 29 Jul 2003 17:37:48 EDT Dear Juraj-- Perhaps this will be encouraging to you, and perhaps it will not be. I believe that you are very lucky that you at least can see your children. You are much further along than I am in that respect. My niece, Emily, was kidnapped by her mother, Eva HHHHHHHH, from the United States to Bratislava, Slovakia, 5 years ago. Because Eva is a Slovak citizen and Slovakia was not in the Hague at the time and had no extradition treaties with the U.S., Eva could not be arrested nor extradited to the U.S. for trial, even though we had an international arrest warrant on her head. So, Emily remains in Slovakia and the United States government could not do "anything" to get her out of there. My brother himself tried to get Emily out of Bratislava, but the attempt failed and the situation was broadcast all over Slovak television and newspapers. He was criticized by the Slovak people because they told him that only the "mother" has the right to have the child--not the father. They told him that in Slovakia, the mother has all the rights, not the father. This is why Eva ran away to Slovakia, because she knew that there she would have all the rights to Emily and my brother would have no rights at all. In the meantime, Eva had gotten Slovak citizenship for Emily because she lied that she did not know where Emily's father was. My brother was able to have the Slovak Supreme Court remove Emily's Slovak citizenship because of Eva's lie, and now Emily only has her United Stated citizenship. That was the only successful thing that my brother was able to do. When my brother was in Slovakia, he had received "death threats" from Eva's family. They are well connected with the church as one of the family members works for the Bishop in Trnava. The Slovak police were following him also, and he was fearful for his life when he was in Bratislava. He finally had to leave because he thought he would be killed there. I go there every year, and I too am fearful when I go there. Last year, I met with my sister-in-law and asked her if I could see Emily. She told me that Emily hates me and my family and does not want to see me. My sister-in-law was so hateful and insulting toward me. I have asked her for pictures of Emily for Emily's grandparents (who are old and sick) and she refused. My parents have given money gifts to Emily, and those gifts have been refused because Eva says that Emily hates her grandparents and wants nothing to do with them. Last year, my 81 year old father came with me to Bratislava and he wanted to see his granddaughter. Eva would not permit it, and she gave the reason that Emily hates her grandfather and does not want to see him. He was heart broken, and because of his age, he will never be able to travel to Bratislava again, and it is very likely that he will never see his granddaughter in his life again. When I was in Bratislava this year, I could only watch Emily from a distance so that I would not be seen. I could not talk to her or hug her. I saw her only for a few seconds, and I had to be satisfied with this. So, you may not think you are lucky but you are, because at least you can see your children and talk to them. They may act hatefully toward you, but at least you can see them, and that means everything. You are lucky. I wish I could talk to Emily, if only for 5 minutes, but I am not allowed to, and I know that I won't be able to talk to her until she is 18 years of age. I must wait 10 more years. My brother is afraid to go to Slovakia because he is afraid that he will be killed there. He has not much of a chance to win in the Slovak courts because he is a father and all rights go to the mother. His ex-wife has made up all kinds of lies that he is a child molester. He must wait until his daughter is 18 years old until he can approach her, and then she will probably hate him so much because of the poison that his ex-wife has put into her head about him, that he will have a very difficult time convincing Emily of the truth. So, my friend, you have it hard, but yet, in some ways, you have it easier then some people. Keep trying. At least you can see your children. That means everything. Don't give up. Please write to me if you like. Andrea XXXXX ---------- Original Message ---------------------------------- From: XXXXXX@aol.com Date: Tue, 29 Jul 2003 19:24:23 EDT Yes, Juraj, hold on to those good moments with your children. Let those "good" moments be what motivates you to keep going forward. When Eva tells me that Emily hates me, I think of all the good moments that I had with my niece Emily, all the times that she smiled at me, all the times that she said to me, "I love you Cioci", then I know in my heart that Emily does not hate me because she has no reason to hate me. I block out Eva's hatred from my mind and I think of Emily's innocent love, and this is what I remember and this is what I concentrate on. I know that Eva is a very unhappy, miserable woman, and she has made a prison for herself in Bratislava. She cannot return to the United States because she will go to jail. She cannot leave Slovakia because she will be arrested because of the international arrest warrant. So, she has made herself into a prisoner, and I know she is living there in a constant state of paranoia and misery. Eva left a big family here in the U.S., and now she can never see them again. I know she is very unhappy, but she did it to herself. I'm sure that your wife is not a happy person running away from her life, causing misery for everyone. She is miserable too. She will not be happy either. You cannot be a happy person when you destroy someone else's life. Your children may hate you now, but perhaps someday it may turn around and it may be her they hate for destroying their lives. God always bring justice where justice is required. Put your faith in God and let him lead you. Put your head in the breast of the Blessed Mother, and let her soothe your tiredness. Pray the rosary as often as you can. It will give you strength. Please write to me any time you want to or need to. I will always write back and try to make you feel better. Andrea<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='tracker/7650227-109682120378516654?l=kizak.blogspot.com' alt='' /></div>Juraj Kizákprofile/15845111075268592890noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7650227.post-1096820911985521912003-07-28T18:27:00.000+02:002005-05-22T18:13:10.626+02:00II.A.11. Stahovanie do Dallasu posunute???FROM: "Juraj Kizak" <juraj@kizak.com> | Save Address DATE: Mon, 28 Jul 2003 01:47:56 +0200 TO: <juraj@kizak.com> SUBJECT: II.11. Stahovanie do Dallasu posunute??? Alienated Children Kizak's International Email Newsletter # II.11 Mezinarodni emailovy buletin “zavrzenych deti Kizakovych” c. II.11 Je jeden muz ve meste Albuquerque, ktory sa dozveda ako posledny z celeho Albuquerque, ze jeho deti sa niekde